Here’s to just how much I’ll miss you all.

                                                 Love, Passive Aggression

(In the meantime, enjoy this beautiful video)

I’m ready to go home now.

evelmiina:

Vessel of Dreams.

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inkwings:

Us and Them by Jamie Mitchell

Things are blown out of proportion.

…bitch.

Killin’ It- Foxy Shazam (“We are not ordinary things.”)

SUCH A FUCKING JAM.

gaksdesigns:

‘Anyone Here?’ by Peter Goes

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So after night after night, and day after day, we’ve all seen the generic social networking posts about how you shouldn’t think you’re fat no matter what your weight is. These posts often include some statistics on anorexia is awful, and that you shouldn’t try to look thin like models in magazines. And everyone’s beautiful the way that they are. 

Last night, I saw a post entitled, “I’m sick of girls complaining that they’re fat and ugly.” I agreed. So I read on. Unfortunately, I found the post to be yet ANOTHER heinous and generic post like the one I mentioned above.

You know what I’m sick of? These fucking posts.

And here’s why.

You know what you’re doing by posting and re-posting these supposedly “feel good” posts? You’re just feeding into the insecurities of people everywhere and further defining the stereotypes of weight-related images. Proof? Everyone of these posts either convey the point that “next time you think your fat, think of that anorexic girl” or “I’m fat and It’s better than being anorexic”. Which is all good and fine, but by using these extremes, it constantly puts out the message that associates being “thin” with anorexia and being “fat” as being non-anorexic. Of course, the average, mentally stable reader should be able to read between the lines, but even still I think the constant word association is DANGEROUS and stupid.  To constantly use these extreme categories to prove a point about self-image, is to feed into everything they’re supposedly fighting. To me, it seems as if it can put a negative connotation to being thin, and instead of encouraging self-help and healthy living, it encourages people to continue in unhealthy lifestyles and hide behind a wall of “feel-good pride”; All to cover up the fact that they’re not willing to change for that certain period of time.

I know this isn’t the case all the time. And don’t get me wrong, I think it’s WONDERFUL to be confident in who you are despite outward appearances, and that really DOES make you more attractive and likeable to those around you. But I just don’t think this is what these posts actually project. I think the way the message of inner-beauty is conveyed a lot of the time is OFFENSIVE, in that it tries to put out this message by concentrating on outward appearances in some strange capacity, which is not helpful in any way.

I don’t think plus size pride and anorexia-scare messages help anybody. And it honestly disturbs me when you hear overweight celebrities as activists saying, “I love my weight, it makes me who I am.” That is ridiculous.You’re basically saying that a NUMBER defines you. Now, I know this is not what is literally MEANT by the statement, it’s  supposed to mean, “I’m comfortable with who I am, therefore my weight is a non-issue to my mental well-being” BUT THAT’S NOT WHAT IS SAID. That is NOT how it’s worded. Ever. This is a problem. And it’s MISLEADING. The fact that you’re even saying that your weight is part of WHO YOU ARE, in that statement, is appalling. You know why? Because to me, that is superficial.  Your likes, dislikes, opinions, beliefs, and moral center is what makes you who you are, not the clothes you wear, or the shape of your face, or ANY aspect of your outward appearance. To me, glorifying how much meat there is on your bones is as superficial as the meatless images of models on the cover of magazines, that are so often complained about.

I don’t know about you, but I would LOVE to see a post that instead of saying “Be Proud of Your Size” says, “Be Proud of Who You Are”. A post that encourages confidence in personality despite outward appearances, and informs the reader that it’s OKAY to want to change your outside image, and you CAN. But the FIRST step to getting an outward image that you’d like to project is by first spending time being happy with your inward self, so as your outward appearance has no bearing on your day to day happiness. And instead of saying it’s okay to be overweight, I would love these messages to encourage people to follow healthy lifestyles that start by loving yourself, eating healthy and exercising. And if you don’t get around to it? Love yourself anyways and stop posting those stupid messages complaining that models are “too thin”, and that there’s so much “pressure to be thin”, and “watch out or you’ll be anorexic”.

I beg you, people of the internet with body issues, to stop making excuses and stop using a debilitating mental and physical disorders like anorexia and bulimia as a scare tactic give other girls with low self-esteem a reason NOT to change their outward appearance despite possible health risks (heart disease, etc.). It’s okay to love yourself as you are, but change isn’t a bad thing either. It’s building self-confidence that does NOT revolve around physical appearances, that’s important.

Accept that fact that YOU create you’re own pressure, and then DESTROY it. Love your personality, and fuck the rest. You can look however you want to look, you just need the confidence to realize that your appearance doesn’t have to control your happiness.

Relish this advice. This is the most optimistic I will ever be.